Adulting 101: Choosing your friends wisely

April 21, 2016

There comes a point in your life where you might have to do a friends purge.

If you’re the type of person who never has to do that because you’ve made really good decisions about choosing who you want in your life, then that’s awesome. I hope that there are more people like you in the world because it’s a really emotional time, but I’ve met multiple people who keep these people around because they felt like they’ve invested too much into the “friendship.”

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If you’re a normal human being, chances are you’ve made mistakes and you’ve picked out some bad influences to be your ride or die. And as a normal human being, maybe you still let that person into your life because you can forgive.

But remember, they say that a person is a product of the 5 people they surround themselves with, so… with that being said, take a good look at who you surround yourself with and that’s what you are.

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I was always told that my best friends would come from college and I had some fun times in college, but I had to cut out the people who stayed in college party mode. It’s totally fine if that’s what you want, but the thing is that I didn’t. I wanted to work towards having a career in writing or marketing instead of living off of tips forever, so I shifted my group of friends and after a lot of patience and hard work, here I am… giving advice to people who have yet to learn the lessons of adulthood.

Choosing your friends wisely doesn’t mean that you have to cut people out just based on career goals, it could even be related to happiness and supporting you as a friend with unconditional love.

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If someone is always trying to be better than you or is constantly putting you down, or better yet judging you for everything that you do, that is not a good person. He/she is going to stunt your growth and you’ll never be able to achieve the things that you want with that negativity in your life. I am all for being realistic, but I’d rather have someone who is positive than someone who is constantly shutting down my ideas before listening to them.

This could also apply to you! Do you have a friend who brings out the worst in you? Do you turn into a green monster of jealousy and you can never be happy for that person? Do you always judge them on everything that they post on Facebook or Instagram?

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Then you need to cut them out of your life because you’re not doing them any good!

This situation applies to so many people of all walks of life and it’s hard, but trust me… only good can come out in the long run.

Have you had any experiences like this? Do you have any good advice for people who have to go down this path? Let us know in the comments below!